There are moments when the problem is not that we have no options.
On the contrary, sometimes we have too many.
We hesitate between two decisions. We begin to make a change, but other people’s opinions cause us to doubt ourselves. We feel that we want something more from life, yet we cannot understand exactly what it is.
At such times, we often ask ourselves questions like:
“Which choice is the right one?”
“What if I am making a mistake?”
“Is this really my path?”
“Why do I know that I want change, but still have no idea which direction to take?”
Some of Dr Bach’s flower remedies are associated precisely with these inner states.
They can help us look more clearly at indecision, the influence of others, and uncertainty about our direction.
Scleranthus: When We Hesitate Between Two Options
Scleranthus is associated with inner indecision.
A person may continually change their mind:
“Should I stay or leave?”
“Should I accept the offer or wait?”
“Should I speak or remain silent?”
“Should I choose security or a new beginning?”
The problem is not always a lack of information.
Sometimes both options offer something important. And every choice means giving up the other direction.
This can create the feeling that we need to find a decision with no risk, no loss, and no possibility of making a mistake.
But such a choice rarely exists.
Scleranthus guides us towards questions such as:
Which two options am I hesitating between?
What do I gain and what do I lose with each one?
Do I know deep down what I want?
Am I trying to find a choice with no risk at all?
Am I afraid to take responsibility for my decision?
What would I choose if I did not have to explain myself to anyone?
Clarity does not always arrive as sudden certainty.
Sometimes it appears when we accept that there is no perfect choice, only a choice we are willing to follow consciously.
Walnut: When Change Has Already Begun
Walnut is associated with transitions and sensitivity to outside influence.
Change can be desired and still be difficult.
A new job, a separation, moving to a new place, a change in a relationship, a new stage of life, or the decision to leave an old habit behind can all take us outside what feels familiar.
At such times, other people’s opinions often begin to affect us more strongly:
“Are you sure this is right?”
“I would not do that if I were you.”
“It is already too late to start again.”
“You would be better off staying where you are.”
Sometimes we hear so many outside voices that we stop recognising our own.
Walnut may ask us:
What change am I going through?
Which old part of my life am I leaving behind?
Whose opinion is influencing me too strongly?
What had I chosen before others began telling me what I should do?
What boundaries do I need?
How can I support myself during this transition?
Moving forward does not mean denying the past.
It means allowing it to remain behind us without constantly determining our next step.
Wild Oat: When We Do Not Know Which Direction Is Ours
Wild Oat is associated with a deeper uncertainty about life or professional direction.
This is not simply hesitation between two specific options.
It is more the feeling:
“I know I want something more, but I do not know what it is.”
A person may have abilities, ideas, and opportunities, yet still not know where to direct their energy.
They may begin different things, but none of them brings a sense of genuine fulfilment.
Or they may follow a path that appears successful from the outside but does not feel right within.
Wild Oat guides us towards questions such as:
Which activities make me lose track of time?
What makes me feel alive and inspired?
Which of my abilities remain unused?
Am I following someone else’s idea of success?
What would I try if I were not afraid of wasting time?
Which direction keeps appearing in my ideas and dreams?
What small step can I take without needing to know the whole path?
We do not always need to discover our final calling immediately.
Sometimes direction reveals itself through experimenting, movement, and gradually getting to know ourselves.
How to Tell the Three States Apart
These three flowers may seem similar, but they point to different inner experiences.
Scleranthus is associated with hesitation between specific options.
Walnut is associated with change, transition, and the influence of other people’s opinions.
Wild Oat is associated with a deeper uncertainty about one’s direction in life.
We can ask ourselves:
Do I know what I am choosing between but still cannot decide?
Have I already made a decision, but someone else’s opinion is making me doubt it?
Or do I have no idea which direction would truly fulfil me?
These questions can help us recognise which theme is closest to our present state.
A Short Practice: The Three Voices
Divide a page into three sections.
In the first, write:
What Does My Mind Want?
Write down the practical arguments, facts, and possible consequences.
In the second:
What Does My Heart Want?
Write down what you truly desire without thinking about how it may appear to others.
In the third:
What Am I Afraid Of?
Write down the fears that are influencing your choice.
Then read all three sections and ask yourself:
“Which part is my true desire, and which part is only fear or someone else’s expectation?”
You do not need to make a final decision immediately.
Sometimes the first step is simply learning to distinguish your own voice from all the others.
These practices are not intended for diagnostic purposes and do not replace medical, psychological, or therapeutic consultation. They are designed as an additional tool for self-knowledge, inner clarity, and personal orientation.
The Flower Compass in Tarotico
When you are hesitating, going through a change, or searching for your direction, the Flower Compass in Tarotico can help you explore the emotional theme behind your question more deeply.
Suitable readings include:
The Most Suitable Flower for Me in This Situation
The Root of the Problem
My Current State
The Path of the Seven Flowers
Emotional Portrait
You do not need to see the entire path in order to take the next step.
Sometimes clarity does not come before movement, but through it.
Your direction begins to reveal itself when you learn to distinguish your own voice from fear and the expectations of others.
